A Christian’s Response to Charlottesville…

It’s extremely hard to grasp the concept of a Christian-based hate group. It is an oxymoron. It does not make any type of sense. For centuries, The Ku Klux Klan has terrorized the black community under the coverings of white sheets, standing with burning crosses. They aligned themselves with the fascist regime, the Nazi Party, and donned Confederate flags with pride. They stand for everything and anything white, even if those things contradict themselves, and even believe that God is white. They believe that Blacks and all other POC are inferior, and should be eradicated. Then there are those who may not be openly joined with groups such as the KKK or the Alt-Right, but get angry at the talks of tearing down Confederate statues and memorabilia. One would think they would seek knowledge about their very own “culture,” before forming such harsh beliefs.

The United States went to war against the Nazi Party, a.k.a. Hitler, the Holocaust, etc. The Nazi’s Lost. A “Proud American,” would not side with the enemy, or that would be like, treason right? How unpatriotic of the Alt-Right. Not even Germany wants anything to do with the Nazis and actually bans the flag and arrest anyone caught doing the Nazi Salute.

Let’s back it up even more. The Civil War. Any history class will at least be truthful about one thing: the Confederacy lost to the Union. Plain and simple. Robert E. Lee, a Confederate General, addressed the topic of the removal of confederate memorabilia, stating that it would be best to “obliterate the marks of strife,” meaning to get rid of anything that reminds people of the sufferings of the civil war, and to also align itself with the Union, now, the U.S.. The flag, the statues, the memorabilia, were not meant to keep around for the purposes of remembering history. They were kept to remember hate. It was never about history and culture, it’s about continuing the curse of generational hatred for POC. There’s no way to argue this without acknowledging that first and foremost, the Confederacy believed in the enslavement of “lesser beings,” blacks, and still fight to this day to keep POC from gaining equality with white men.

Now let’s talk about the white Christians that hate. The bible CLEARLY states, “Anyone who hates a brother or sister is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life residing in him,” as well as, “But anyone who hates a brother or sister is in the darkness and walks around in the darkness. They do not know where they are going, because the darkness has blinded them” (1 John 3:15 and 1 John 2:11, respectively). Furthermore, 1 John 4:20 says, “Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen.”

Are these people reading the same bible?

Probably not, just like they are not reading history books.

The fact that the first thing out of those people’s mouth is, “well look at the racist hate group BLM! They’re doing it too!” is pathetic. The Black Lives Matter movement was started as a response to the egregious amount of police brutality and lack of justice for black victims, not to hate white people. Oppressed people cannot oppress people. However, victims of abuse do rise up against their abusers. If you cannot see the difference than I pray God will open your eyes, to see the own log in your own eye so you can remove it. As a mixed person, and “racially ambiguous,” people often want to hear what I have to say about what’s going on. Do I hate white people? No, I am half white, I have a white mother, and I have white family members. I also have white family members that are/were racist and I have disassociated myself with them. I am also half black. I have experienced hatred and injustice, yet I do not have the same struggle that black Americans have. I do have privilege as a light person, and I aim to use that privilege any way I can to speak for those that have muted voices (let me know how I can help!).

This should be the goal of every person, especially Christians. Especially white Christians. You simply cannot be a believer and have hatred in your hearts. We have to do better. We will be held accountable for our actions, and our lack of action. We will be judged, we will be asked why we did not care for our brother and sister. We will have to suffer the consequences. Maybe you don’t have to join a counter-protest but your daily lives and interactions with POC and any oppressed person should exemplify mercy, grace, and love. White silence is dangerous. You must have these discussions to teach love and help others remove hatred from their hearts. It’s not about hating yourself for being white, it’s about disassociating yourself with hate. If it means that you’ll lose family members or friends by standing up for justice, for the truth, for God, then so be it.

God is love, and in order to have God, you have to know love and vise versa. You have to truly submit to His will, His commands, His Word, even if it means losing everything you know. It’s a process, but in the end what would you rather have? An easy life, or an eternal life? Being a Christian is never going to be easy. Standing up for God’s truth, that all men and women deserve love and mercy, is not going to be easy. It will, however, be worth it. God has shown grace and mercy to each and everyone of us, we are supposed, commanded even, to do the same for our brothers and sisters. Ending hate and racism starts with you. Christians have been given power to influence nations, and unfortunately, many have only used their platform to promote their own hatred. We have to do better. Stop playing the blame game. Stop pointing fingers. Accept the fact that the KKK, Alt-Right, and other Confederate groups are the spawn of hatred. They are NOT in alignment with God’s word.

Faith without works is dead. It’s not as simple as pray the hate away. We must do the work! We all must walk in Love with God. Magnify Him!

I pray that everyone reading this, regardless of race, religion, or otherwise, will take at least one thing away from this: Take responsibility for your own actions toward others.

10 Things to Know Before Dating a Writer

Just to lighten up the mood around here,  I’ve decided to write some advice for those interested in dating a writer.

  1. If you don’t already know the difference between your and you’re, or their, they’re, and there, I suggest you study up before texting.
  2. In fact, if you generally struggle with grammar it’s best to stick to verbal conversations. Or you could download some sort of spell check app (autocorrect isn’t your friend).
  3. When you find out we’re a writer please resist the urge to use big words to impress us. You’re probably using the words incorrectly anyway.
  4. We are often labeled as absent-minded, however in reality we are just thinking of our next article or poem. Don’t prevent this process or you’ll be given the side-eye and/or we might just “go to the bathroom,” so we can write out our thoughts on our phones without interruption. Just be okay with repeating yourself when necessary, also prepare to be ignored.
  5. Often because we are so enveloped in our thoughts, our facial expressions appear as if we are not enjoying your company. It’s not you, it’s the creative process. Also, the content matter may have more effect on this.
  6. Of course, there is the possibility that it is you, maybe the date is going terribly and we’re already writing about the experience in our heads.
  7. You will be written about. Of course, we’ll maintain your anonymity (especially if it’s bad). If we don’t write about you, you need to spice your life up a bit.
  8. Don’t ask to see what we’re writing about in the middle of us writing. Just. Don’t. Wait until we offer it to you, if you want to live.
  9. If we show you what we’ve written, we really care about you, not just your opinion. Our work is precious to us so if we show you something before we publish it, we like you for real.
  10. If in the middle of a conversation we suddenly jump for our phones or notepads, just ignore us, and keep talking. We’re getting inspired. It may or may not have anything to do with the current conversation so it’s best to not ask questions.

“It goes up to 11!”: Upon discovering that we are a writer, please do not send us your “work” for us to edit, without asking. You will regret it.  (This happened in real life).

If you feel I missed some, please feel free to add in the comments!

 

Rape in the 21st Century

*Sensitive Content*

Rape. A four-letter word with worse effects than four letter profanities. At the mention of the word, an entire atmosphere shifts. From hostility to indifference to empowerment to advocate, the pendulum of “rape” swings. Causing division and creating bonds, the topic and act of rape has had major impacts on the American culture. Not to mention the forever altered lives of the people who have been raped. Today’s statistics show that 1 in 5 women will be sexually assaulted. Less than half report their rape, and only a fraction of assailants are ever imprisoned (Rainn.org). Most people I’ve personally spoken with know little about rape: what it is, what it’s not, and what rape culture is. I believe it is our duty as Believers to seek wisdom in any regard. With that being said, Christian men should know the difference between nonconsensual and consensual sex. Ok, I understand that unless you are married you should not be having sex at all. But even married couples can experience nonconsensual sex. I’ve heard of spousal rape; a husband or wife forces their spouse to commit sexual acts on them even when the spouse does not want to do so. Sorry, that’s not a spousal duty, that’s rape! The bible is clear when it says “[Love] does not demand its own way,” (1 Corinthians 13:5 NLT).

So, let’s see what the term “rape” actually means, shall we: “The penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim” (Department of Justice). I would say that this is a pretty clear definition but let’s see what Merriam-Webster says: “unlawful sexual activity and usually sexual intercourse carried out forcibly or under threat of injury [or coercion] against the will usually of a female or with a person who is beneath a certain age or incapable of valid consent—compare sexual assault, statutory rape”. Another term that’s broadly used is “sexual assault,” which defined by the Department of Justice states: “Sexual assault is any type of sexual contact or behavior that occurs without the explicit consent of the recipient. Falling under the definition of sexual assault are sexual activities as forced sexual intercourse, forcible sodomy, child molestation, incest, fondling, and attempted rape.” Rainn.Org defines sexual assault as:a crime of power and control. The term sexual assault refers to sexual contact or behavior that occurs without explicit consent of the victim. Some forms of sexual assault include: Penetration of the victim’s body, also known as rape. Fondling or unwanted sexual touching.”

Now with all this information about rape out in the web universe, why is it that people still do not agree on what is or is not rape? Could it be that people are just self-preserving because by admitting what rape is, they incriminate themselves? There seems to be a cloud of allusion covering the eyes of many men and women who believe victims hold responsibility for their rape. Amid political figures, clergy, athletes, celebrities, and even neighbors getting caught in rape and sexual assault scandals, it’s hard for the masses to agree on who to believe. Of course, there’s a chance that the woman was lying but doesn’t it seem more likely that the perpetrator would lie? If a person commits a crime, especially a violent one, do you really think they would own up to it? Only 2-8% of reported rape cases are falsely reported (Stanford.edu). So, that means that the rest, the 92-98%, are not false allegations. In other words: They happened, and it’s up to the justice system to prove it. In many cases, sadly, it is rare for an offender to be convicted and imprisoned. Out of 1,000 cases, only six offenders will ever see prison time (Rainn.org).

Today, there’s a new celebrity scandal that has surfaced. R. Kelly. If you are unaware of his past sexual relations with underage girls please google his marriage to then 15-year-old (now dearly departed) Aaliyah back in the early 90’s. Fast forward a few years, and he’s being sued for having sex with another underage girl, otherwise known as statutory rape. Videos of more underage girls surfaced over the years, yet the man has always denied any wrongdoing. I mean, why would he, he produced Aaliyah’s album calling it “Age Ain’t Nothing but a Number.” Which clearly shows you how little he really cares about this country’s laws on age of consent. Return back to current day and you’ll find a slew of articles tracking the man’s history all because of a story that just broke. Terrified parents report their daughter is being held against her will in a cult under the guise of being a girlfriend of R. Kelly. The woman may be of legal age of consent, at 19, however, it’s skeptical whether she’s consented to staying in his home without access to her family along with many other restrictions. Reports are going out left and right, attacking both the parents and the woman’s story as fake and attention seeking. I’ve heard several men say to “leave that man alone,” as if to say he’s done nothing wrong and he’s completely innocent. I almost lost my tongue from biting so hard, it wasn’t the time nor the place and I’m better with words on the proverbial paper.

I believe that this deeply rooted seed of rape culture is now a blossoming tree full of rotten and poisonous fruit. Even some women have eaten from the tree and it won’t be long before we’re all being kicked out of the garden. It’s maddening that there are people who still do not understand how people with power or fame can use said power to take advantage of others. There have been plenty of studies out there for my fellow Psychology and Sociology buffs that express how people will do just about anything when a person of perceived authority tells them to do so (Milgram, etc.). Milgram’s studies can be applied to various scenarios such as believing and going along with a lie to actually causing pain to others. It’s disturbing, but not surprising. For example, I know men that say rape is awful and wrong but still question the woman’s sobriety or clothing attire if she claims rape, all because society continues to say so. Oh, and God forbid the man accused is an athlete or celebrity. She must be lying just to ruin HIS career and take his money. Right. Just because one or two people have done it in the past does not mean that all men accused are innocent. Again, refer to statistics above regarding false reports.

The problem I seem to encounter the most is indifference. Many men, and some women, don’t care about rape, the victims, families, the accused, or guilty. That is, until it happens to them or a loved one. I dare those to ask their sisters, their mothers, their daughters, their wives, and their friends what they were wearing when they got raped, how drunk they were, or what she was doing, ask her if she asked for it. I dare you.

The bible tells us in all our getting, to get an understanding (Proverbs 4:7). I beg you to get an understanding of this issue; don’t continue to turn a blind eye to those in need of compassion, having endured a traumatic experience, yet only finding shame and guilt and victim-blaming. If you refuse to listen to people’s story about rape and sexual assault just understand you’re a part of the problem. If you’re tired of hearing traumatic stories, then look at yourself. Look at your brothers, call out rape culture, call out injustice. This must change. The change starts with you.

Fat Shaming Myself

Okay, so women are the most beautiful people on the planet. Don’t argue with me about it. They just are, accept it. I love women, not in a sexual way, I just truly admire the various range of beauty exhibited by women. God is truly amazing. Women come in all different shapes and sizes. Tall, short, lean, muscular, curvy, athletic, large, small, skinny, fat and so many variants in between. As you can see from the title, I will be discussing the latter. The word fat itself has become stigmatized to mean ugly. Which is far from the truth. There are many models and some actresses (because Hollywood only has room for some and that’s a whole article itself) that are fat, plus sized and beautiful. There are a few fat/plus sized women I personally know and find them to be beautiful. There has been a new wave of body positivity that aim not to glorify or glamorize obesity or “unhealthy lifestyles” (HA!) but that teach women to love themselves and their bodies as they are, regardless of what it looks like. Health is not predicated on weight, height, size, looks, etc. It’s based on the daily lifestyle choices you make, your genetics, and environments. It’s widely known that super models starve themselves, eating very unhealthy diets consisting of minimal foods (or no food at all), excessive exercise, even drug and alcohol use. How healthy does that sound? They could die any moment just because bodies are not made to function that way. On the other end of the spectrum there are women who are “morbidly obese,” that definitely live unhealthy lifestyles as well. I have known women and men that “appear” healthy but are drug addicts, alcoholics, and eat terribly. With all that said, you cannot simply say one is unhealthy because of the way they look.

Now, I had to get all that out because I felt it was necessary, but this isn’t what I aimed to discuss for the entirety of this article. I wanted to be more candid and transparent about my own views, of myself. I have dealt with a very skewed view of myself for years, decades even. I hated my body, I hated my curves, I hated my chin, I hated everything, so, for a long time I treated it as such. I starved it, I overworked it, I drank and used drugs, I punished it. Yet, even when I was skinny and more accepted by the majority, I still hated it. This hatred was taught over years and years and I had accepted the idea that my body was shameful as the truth. Today, I am trying to lose weight. I weigh 220lbs. I’m constantly reminded that I used to be skinny, I used to weigh 150, 160 lbs. So, I’ve decided that to be the best me, I should lose the extra weight and find a good healthy median, about 185lbs. I’m doing it the right way this time, by making better eating choices, and not beating myself up if I have a cheat day. I am working out more regularly, but not overdoing it as to cause injury. So, this is all great and all, where’s the problem you ask?

I hate my own fatness. Truly, I do. I hate seeing pictures of myself. I hate the way my body looks. I feel ashamed of it, even though I know I shouldn’t. It’s maddening that I find the beauty in others shaped like myself. I find the beauty in them and appreciate them. Yet, I cannot even look at my own pictures without grimacing and looking away feeling ashamed. Why, you ask? Because I’m still programmed to hate myself. It’s been a long battle and there’s still a big part of me that believes I will only be attractive and beautiful when I lose the extra fat in my arms and stomach and get rid of the double chin. I even had thoughts that I wouldn’t even get married until I lost the weight. Twisted, right? I’m not sure why I have this vastly different view of myself. I know, however, that it’s demonic, it’s a stronghold over my mindset to keep me bound in some way. I realized I had been praying the wrong prayers for months now. I’ve been praying to quickly lose weight and be healthy. I still need to pray that I will make better lifestyle choices but mostly that my view of myself will align with the view that God has of me. It’s easier said than done, but anything worth doing isn’t easy.

Thanks for reading! Keep me in your prayers, will you? You’ll surely be in mine.

The C Word

*Mature Content*

 

After years of being a single Christian woman, I am still learning how to practically apply the teachings of celibacy. Mainly because no one has taught me exactly how. I’m learning this all on my own through the grace of God, which is great! The only downside is that church leaders everywhere shame men and women for not being celibate, and don’t teach them how or why it’s important. Celibacy, to the modern Christian, is a decision to abstain from any and all sexual encounters until you are married. The main scripture that is used to promote Celibacy is found in 1 Corinthians 7. Apostle Paul also acknowledges that celibacy is a gift, meaning that men and women who can remain celibate for their lifetime have a gift of celibacy so that they can completely dedicate their lives for ministry. The concept of celibacy before marriage originates from Genesis 2:24, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Not many “fleshes,” just ONE flesh. It is a very important to understand that having sexual desires is not wrong, nor is the desire to marry, have children, etc. In fact, God created sexual desire but wants us to share our bodies with our spouse under the Godly covenant of marriage. Without the covering and protection of covenant, you open yourselves up to a world of chaos, inviting soul ties, unwanted pregnancies, STD’s, and heart break. Not to mention you begin to grieve the Holy Spirit because the Bible tells us to flee from sexual immorality, adultery, homosexuality, and fornication (the wording depends on which version you use but the message is all the same). This information is not given to scare or shame you, just to inform you.

So, what happens if you just got saved, like yesterday (or last year), and the whole idea of virginity is long gone? What if you lived your entire adult life having sex? What if you’re now divorced? Lastly, what if you were molested, or raped and the seed for sexual immorality was planted at no fault of your own?

Answering these questions are where most churches fall short. They tell you all day that you’re just supposed to pray and read, read and pray, pray some more, deny your flesh, and all that. However, for those who did not grow up in the church and don’t understand the concept or have outrageous desires due to biochemistry or may be dealing with demonic seeds of lust, this is not an easy thing to do and sounds like gibberish. I’m not saying this as a judgement towards any teachers who say this, but merely as constructive feedback from a recipient of these teachings. What most people are dealing with are not just obedience issues, there are deeply rooted seeds, heart issues, and strongholds that need to be uprooted, healed, and released for a person to be a healthy, celibate Christian. As I mentioned before, I am still trying to figure this celibate life out. And too be honest, I’ve only been celibate since May. After a few conversations with trusted sisters in Christ, and a few more with God, I realized that my inability to remain celibate is an issue because of a seed that was planted decades ago when I was first molested. It stole my innocence and any idea of purity or celibacy. These strongholds can be removed, however; read my article about soul ties, it may help you with your journey to healing. I truly believe that if we focus too much on behavior, we miss the root. For some, the response shouldn’t be, “keep it in your pants or keep your legs closed,” but rather, “let’s pray that God will reveal where the root is.” As a leader, you cannot simply assume someone is struggling with celibacy simply because they just like sex and don’t want to stop.

It may be beneficial to have a ministry designed for sex education. Not simply teaching how part A fits into part B, but how sex is a sacred act, and a gift from God for us to enjoy within marriage. I mean, think about it. Once every month, a woman’s body will try to get pregnant, and we all know how that happens, so women are must vulnerable during that time. Men are also known to have fluctuations of hormones where sexual urges are stronger. It has less to do with lust, and more to do with how our bodies are designed. We must learn how to not let these urges take over, and that takes practice, believe me. Within a protected environment, open up dialogues to see how others handle their sexual urges or even form a support group for those that are struggling. Safe sex isn’t just about using condoms and birth control, it’s also about understanding the potential consequences from our actions and why it’s best reserved for marriage. Hey these are just ideas…I would just hate to bring problems without a probable solution.

There are both physical and spiritual reasons as to why we want sex. Addressing the physical as stated above is merely half the battle but it helps to lead into the spiritual issues. Promiscuous people tend to also be hurt people; they’ve been molested or raped at early ages when children are most vulnerable. The notion that you must train a child in the way they should go applies both ways, for evil or for good. Children exposed to sex are more likely to be promiscuous adults. (I hate that term btw but there aren’t many other words to describe this. Sigh). It is of no fault of their own, so they can’t be blamed, but as an adult it must be dealt with so that they can receive healing and be freed from any strongholds. Not just for purposes of being celibate but so they can truly be healed and be consumed by the love of Christ and live out their purpose!

I believe that once a root of lust is found, the work needs to begin immediately. When you are uprooting something, you tend to get dirty, tired, weak, and all around uncomfortable. This is when we need the most support from our trusted brethren. This is where transparency and honesty are required from both sides. I know I am not the only one struggling with celibacy yet no one is talking about it and there are no support groups for this at my local church. Getting into a relationship and getting married just to solve the act of fornication itself is NOT the solution. Although Apostle Paul does say it is better to marry than to burn with lust, he does say he would rather we be like him, celibate and okay with it. I hated the idea of giving up sex at first because I felt like it was the only good thing I had in life. Once I saw the truth, it helped guide me closer to God, and closer to living a pure life. Right now, I am celibate but I am also not even dating (there just aren’t any suitors lol). I am grateful for that because I have been given appropriate time to heal and be strengthened, and I don’t want to start dating again until the seed of lust is fully uprooted.

I pray that this has shed some light for you and helped you in some way. Share this with someone you know is struggling, or a church leader, or anyone!

The Ghost of Relationships Past

Soul ties. These ghouls stick around to haunt even years after a breakup, even if you were never physically intimate. Soul ties can alter your vision, hinder your growth, complicate future relationships, and even throw you off your path to purpose. Unless you banish them. You don’t have to call the Ghostbusters to get rid of these soul ties but you most definitely need to call on Jesus. “Soul tie” may be a misnomer; as explained to me a soul-tie is essentially coming into an agreement with a stronghold. Strongholds, in their demonic form, are ideas, beliefs, thoughts, or anything else that lead to actions that are in opposition to the truth, the will of God. No, your soul is not “tied” to another person. It also is a form of coveting. Often, we see a person as capable of fulfilling a desire; they have something we want. To covet means to yearn or have a strong desire for something (or someone). Regardless of where they come from, or what we call it, they create a new path for us that we were never meant to be on.

After a break-up or decision to stop fooling around with someone, there’s a physical, mental, and spiritual process that happens (or should happen) to fully release these soul ties. The physical part is easy. Many people are told to throw anything away that was given to you by that person. This isn’t done because the item has powers, it’s done because the seeing the items can be constant reminders of the person who gave it to you. This may be difficult for some, especially if what they gave you were things you needed and could not afford yourself. If you must keep it, it’s going to require more mental and spiritual processes and strength. So, let’s talk more about the next part…

How can you throw away pain? How do you throw away self-hatred? How can you throw away scars? How do you throw away bitterness? How does one separate viral cells from the platelets in your blood? How can you throw away trauma? Believe me, if it was as easy as throwing this stuff in the trash to burn, I’d already be covered in ash and ready to clean up. It’s not that easy, however, and requires plucking, pruning, and digging to remove those things. What’s the best way to do this? PRAYER and the WORD of GOD. There are no “step one, step two and you’re done” type of programs for removing soul ties. I believe it is this way because it requires a deeper intimacy with God. He wants you to draw nearer to Him, because it’s very likely that when you were in your past relationship you neglected Your Father. I’m guilty of this. You may very well love God, and call yourself a Believer, but sometimes a man or woman is presented and you begin to slack on how much you read or pray because you’re with your new boo. It happens. Thank God for grace!

Through prayer, immersion in the word, and studying you will be presented with the truth. It may hurt. In fact, expect it to. It’s a required part of the process. Refer back to the plucking, pruning, and digging. It’s not an easy experience but that is why God sends the Holy Spirit as our comforter. Prayer is so important because it is a direct communication to our Father, and opens the channel for Him to speak back. It may be an immediate response, a dream later that evening, a sign you see later, or it may even come from a conversation with a brother or sister in Christ. If you’re not sure how to pray about breaking soul ties, feel free to contact me and I will assist you in writing a prayer that you can read aloud daily. Prayer doesn’t have to be lengthy and using big words and all that. But it does require the use of scripture and that is why studying the word is so important. I will be placing scriptures that will begin your journey to freedom and healing at the end of this article.

This all guides us through the mental and spiritual processes of breaking soul ties. Most yokes and bonds start in the mind anyway, so that’s where the real struggle resides. We must attack the parts of our mind that were bound with the same fierceness that the enemy used in creating the yoke, and even greater. Most of the healing process will require your action, and God will do the impossible. You can begin your journey today, break free from the chains of the past, break the soul ties, and receive healing, love, and power. Then get back on track to purpose! You deserve it! God loves you, in fact, He adores you and rejoices over you with singing (Zephaniah 3:17).

Scriptures to read to begin your process:

2 Corinthians 10: 4-6— “For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for the pulling down of strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, and being ready to punish all disobedience when your obedience is fulfilled.”

Matthew 11:28-30— “Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you, and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”

2 Corinthians 5:17— “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.”

Psalm 40:1-3— “I waited patiently for the Lord; and He inclined to me and heard my cry. He also brought me up out of a horrible pit, out of the miry clay, and set my feet upon a rock, and established my steps. He has put a new song in my mouth—Praise to our God; Many will see it and fear, and will trust in the Lord.”

Further reading:

Hebrews 12:11-16

James 5:13-16

Matthew 6:9-15

*All scripture taken from New King James Version*

 

You seem soft…

I couldn’t possibly love you. No, it doesn’t seem likely.

My skin is too thick, made of brick and mortar,

Protecting my heart from the jabs of the men I knew before

You. You seem soft to the touch and therefore how could I feel you?

Your caress would crumble against my brick walls.

With this unfamiliar expression, quizzical gaze

I question you, you must be lying like the rest

You with your soft fingertips, must be disguised daggers

Ready to attack when I let down my gates.

I couldn’t possibly love you. No, not like this.

There must be a mistake because vulnerability does not come without

Culpability, and you could never take the blame.

You. You seem soft, yet there will always be a part of you that hardens.

At this point I don’t know what I’m more afraid of.

Should I remain silent, knowing that the things I don’t say can and will

Be used against me? My lack of response will only incriminate me.

Words, they escape my grasp like tendrils in the wind.

You. You seem soft, and tenderness is unfamiliar territory.

You, you would have to charter miles of brick scuffing your surface

Like an eraser, removing all the agony written on my walls of shame.

Maybe, maybe it’s meant to be this way.