The Ghost of Relationships Past

Soul ties. These ghouls stick around to haunt even years after a breakup, even if you were never physically intimate. Soul ties can alter your vision, hinder your growth, complicate future relationships, and even throw you off your path to purpose. Unless you banish them. You don’t have to call the Ghostbusters to get rid of these soul ties but you most definitely need to call on Jesus. “Soul tie” may be a misnomer; as explained to me a soul-tie is essentially coming into an agreement with a stronghold. Strongholds, in their demonic form, are ideas, beliefs, thoughts, or anything else that lead to actions that are in opposition to the truth, the will of God. No, your soul is not “tied” to another person. It also is a form of coveting. Often, we see a person as capable of fulfilling a desire; they have something we want. To covet means to yearn or have a strong desire for something (or someone). Regardless of where they come from, or what we call it, they create a new path for us that we were never meant to be on.

After a break-up or decision to stop fooling around with someone, there’s a physical, mental, and spiritual process that happens (or should happen) to fully release these soul ties. The physical part is easy. Many people are told to throw anything away that was given to you by that person. This isn’t done because the item has powers, it’s done because the seeing the items can be constant reminders of the person who gave it to you. This may be difficult for some, especially if what they gave you were things you needed and could not afford yourself. If you must keep it, it’s going to require more mental and spiritual processes and strength. So, let’s talk more about the next part…

How can you throw away pain? How do you throw away self-hatred? How can you throw away scars? How do you throw away bitterness? How does one separate viral cells from the platelets in your blood? How can you throw away trauma? Believe me, if it was as easy as throwing this stuff in the trash to burn, I’d already be covered in ash and ready to clean up. It’s not that easy, however, and requires plucking, pruning, and digging to remove those things. What’s the best way to do this? PRAYER and the WORD of GOD. There are no “step one, step two and you’re done” type of programs for removing soul ties. I believe it is this way because it requires a deeper intimacy with God. He wants you to draw nearer to Him, because it’s very likely that when you were in your past relationship you neglected Your Father. I’m guilty of this. You may very well love God, and call yourself a Believer, but sometimes a man or woman is presented and you begin to slack on how much you read or pray because you’re with your new boo. It happens. Thank God for grace!

Through prayer, immersion in the word, and studying you will be presented with the truth. It may hurt. In fact, expect it to. It’s a required part of the process. Refer back to the plucking, pruning, and digging. It’s not an easy experience but that is why God sends the Holy Spirit as our comforter. Prayer is so important because it is a direct communication to our Father, and opens the channel for Him to speak back. It may be an immediate response, a dream later that evening, a sign you see later, or it may even come from a conversation with a brother or sister in Christ. If you’re not sure how to pray about breaking soul ties, feel free to contact me and I will assist you in writing a prayer that you can read aloud daily. Prayer doesn’t have to be lengthy and using big words and all that. But it does require the use of scripture and that is why studying the word is so important. I will be placing scriptures that will begin your journey to freedom and healing at the end of this article.

This all guides us through the mental and spiritual processes of breaking soul ties. Most yokes and bonds start in the mind anyway, so that’s where the real struggle resides. We must attack the parts of our mind that were bound with the same fierceness that the enemy used in creating the yoke, and even greater. Most of the healing process will require your action, and God will do the impossible. You can begin your journey today, break free from the chains of the past, break the soul ties, and receive healing, love, and power. Then get back on track to purpose! You deserve it! God loves you, in fact, He adores you and rejoices over you with singing (Zephaniah 3:17).

Scriptures to read to begin your process:

2 Corinthians 10: 4-6— “For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for the pulling down of strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, and being ready to punish all disobedience when your obedience is fulfilled.”

Matthew 11:28-30— “Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you, and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”

2 Corinthians 5:17— “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.”

Psalm 40:1-3— “I waited patiently for the Lord; and He inclined to me and heard my cry. He also brought me up out of a horrible pit, out of the miry clay, and set my feet upon a rock, and established my steps. He has put a new song in my mouth—Praise to our God; Many will see it and fear, and will trust in the Lord.”

Further reading:

Hebrews 12:11-16

James 5:13-16

Matthew 6:9-15

*All scripture taken from New King James Version*



3 thoughts on “The Ghost of Relationships Past”

  1. This is good stuff, And practical! I’m realizing I haven’t actually done some of the necessary steps, just assumed I was good. Thanks for the reminder!

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